The Truth of Con Sex

Oh yeah lets go back to your room

Undress me





you know what I’ll do it myself

Fat girls wearing skin tight cosplays and not giving a fuck: (ノ◕ヮ◕)ノ*: ・゚✧

"I’m a female cosplayer but I don’t get my tits and ass out, I don’t dress like a slut."

well done….do you want a cookie….

Just because you dont get your “tits and ass out” or dress like a ‘slut’ or whatever, doesn’t make you better. If a female cosplayer wants to have their cleavage and/or ass out, then why the hell shouldn’t they? Who are you to judge them? THESE PEOPLE CAN DRESS HOW THEY LIKE AND ITS NOT OF YOUR BUSINESS

get your internalized misogyny out my face. Female and female identified cosplayers are being attacked en masse for “wanting attention” or not being “real geeks”, lets not attack each other as well?



Cosplay Sexual: What Gender Binary?
or why the question ‘Are you a boy or a girl?’ is a stupid one to ask anyway

SO one of the questions I will get from time to time is ‘what gender are you?’ or ‘are you a boy or a girl?’ This question almost exclusively comes my way after I’ve made a new male character cosplay.

Let me answer that question with a question: why do you care?

I think this question is most frequently asked for two reasons, actually.  One is simple curiosity.  But I think the second reason is far more common. What you’re really asking is: I find you attractive when you’re dressed as this character, but you’re not going to upset my sexual orientation identity, are you?

no seriously

cut that shit out.

  • you don’t need to have a crisis if you find somebody in a cosplay hot even if the cosplayer is not your usual preferred gender.  So you’re a straight female and you found that Dave cosplay hot, but the cosplayer turned out to be a girl? So what?  You found them hot while dressed as a boy.  Guess what? It was a successful crossplay, your brain was convinced enough to find them attractive. BAM, problem solved.
  • why does the cosplayer need to fit your objectification? it’s your responsibility, or your hormones, or your aesthetic preferences, that have gone off the deep end here; it’s not the responsibility of the cosplayer to let you know if they fit your specifications.
  • more insidiously, the question implied is ‘are you a CIS* boy or girl?’  If a trans* person answers with their gender and you find out they don’t have the cis* biological parts, that tends to result in some ugly ‘TRAP/REVERSE TRAP!’ shit that’s just gross.

My best friend calls finding somebody who crossplays attractive while they’re in costume ‘cosplay sexual’.  It means you’re attracted to a person only while they’re dressed as your preferred gender.  And it doesn’t mean you need to break out in hives or question your orientation!  You know why?

The gender of the cosplayer doesn’t actually matter. They’re busy doing what cosplay is all about: being a successful chameleon, taking on the physical characteristics of a character so well you can’t guess anything about the person behind them, even their gender.  Your brain doesn’t care either: it just likes what the cosplayer is presenting.  In other words, success all around! The cosplayer has done their job and you get something pleasing to look at.  Woo!

So next time you’re sitting there sweating about whether that cosplay you think is super hot is being worn by a person who fits your sexual identity, take a deep breath, calm down, and remember: it’s all in your head.  And your head whispers, ’fuck yes’.

EDIT: HOLY NOTES BATMAN. I should probably clarify a couple of things for people who actually bother to go back to this original post?

1) I did mention briefly (too briefly) above that some people ask because they’re curious! But there’s a better way to ask about gender than ‘boy or girl?’ Try ‘what pronouns do you prefer?’ it’s just more polite.

2) If you’re not going to be interacting with the person and you’re not sure of gender there’s a couple of ways around it! you can use gender neutral pronouns like ‘hir’ and ‘xe’. Also, if you’re not going to interact with them, do you actually need to know? That’s kind of my point - if you’re just looking at them online, it doesn’t really matter and you don’t need to have an identity crisis. :)


Cosplay: The Drama


Since the Anon brought it up..let’s really explore cosplay and what is happening with it.

People dressing up in costume for the sake of fandom (if you will) is not a new concept.  Even since the beginnings of San Diego Comic Con, we have seen fans dress up.  Over the years, and with the addition of science fiction, Movies, Japanese anime, and advances in cartoons, the level at which people make their costumes has skyrocketed.

Let’s take an average day at Comic Con.  You can easily walk around and see full blown Night Elves in full armor, a couple of Iron Men with fully motorized face shields, Ghostbusters with functioning proton packs equipped with lights and music, and anime characters with the largest weapons ever seen.  Very easily can a lot of these costumes rival, and even outdo, their Hollywood counterparts.  We even see astromech droids interact like you would see in Star Wars.  What happened?

Well, that is easy.  Dressing in costume no longer is just a thing that “geeks do cause they are weird”.  No.  All kinds of people want to show their love for the things they like.  People have learned and mastered robotics, led work, sewing, metalworking, special fx makeup, etc.  You put two or three of those onto one person, it becomes absolutely stunning.  Now that is where the trouble really begins.

Fame.  Fame is a double edged sword.  Let’s take Joe Cool for example.  Joe has completed his Iron Man Mach VI armor and while at a Con, can barely move because people are taking picture after picture of him.  Left and right comments are made “Dude you are the best”, “I can’t believe how amazing that is!”, ¨The best at the Con!”  Wow, how amazing does that feel?  So Joe goes home and says, “Alright..Arkham City Mr. Freeze?  Challenge Accepted.”  Joe has this newfound inspiration to make something else amazing.  Why?  He has a fire lit under him.  He now knows that he has the capability to do it, and wants to make something else because he loves Batman, he loves working on costumes, and it was so much fun.  As he unveils his Freeze next year, same events unfold.  

But Trey, you said double edged sword

That I did.  While Joe gets this amazing confidence as well as drive to do more, people start looking forward to what he will do next.  They also place him on this “celebrity” status.  Passed around online and through word of mouth, his craft becomes elevated to a level that we see on tv and magazines.  Other quoteunquote lower cosplayers strive to be him while at the same time go “I will never be that good”.  The internet roars into debates of who is best and “Man just give up”.  I thought the internet was a nice place :P

I am not one to hide my views on subjects.  Cosplay, especially recently, is one of those I feel very passionately about.  The scenario above is unfortunately very real.  While for Joe this has been an uplifting experience, the hive mind that a percentage of the internet has can becomes very harmful and poisonous to others.  So many times I myself have not wanted to do a specific costume because I have seen a much higher quality version of it.  I have seen people break down because they feel that their costume is “no good”.  It becomes really unfortunate for those select few who do put their hard work and dedication in to create something beautiful to then see what happens to others who give up.  

I am not one to really call action, but this is ridiculous.  Maybe this message only reaches a few people.  Let’s give it a shot.  Within the cosplay community, we all are there for the same reason, WE LOVE OUR CHARACTERS!  There is no doubt about that.  When we have people that do really great costumes, appreciate it, love it, but let’s love everyone.  Give constructive feedback to people who are feeling down.  Don’t build those pedestals up.  Above all else, remember, this is all for fun.  Pure. Fun. 

So to those of you out there that feel discouraged…don’t.  Wear your costumes proudly.  Work on them and strive to be better because it is WHAT YOU WANT.  Don’t do it for the pictures, the attention, the glory.  Do it because dressing up is just way too much fun. 

-Cap’n Sparrow

(via clownyprincess)